Edited to Add (Aug. 12):T hank you for all of the amazing advice and thoughts! WOW! I never imagined such a response.
I have read through all of the very well thought out counsel and have weighed what I want my daughter to know against her age, and have decided that the best way to approach it right now is to discuss our bodies – just she and I. I think I’ll start with questions – Do you know how boys and girls are different? and go from there 🙂 I think I’ll ask a lot of questions, and let her ask several in return – then I can get a feel for what she’s ready for, what she knows, and what she wants to know. I think I’ll see where it goes from there.
I liked the advice to have the “bodies” talk alone with her, then have Lyndon join me for the second talk. I certainly will try to keep it light – no need to freak her out 🙂 I remember where I first heard about the birds and the bees – sitting with a friend at the park when I was about 9 years old. NOT the way I want my girls to hear about it. I also love the advice to call our body parts by their proper names so as to dispel the “silliness”. I also think it makes it more “matter of fact” like discussing math or science. GREAT ADVICE! I’m so glad I got this response – I’ve learned a lot and I think I’m prepared now (as prepared as I’ll ever be!).
I need your advice. Your experience. Your thoughts.
My eldest daughter is eight years old now. I read somewhere that 8 years of age is the best time to have the big “sex” talk because at that age they are old enough to comprehend what you are telling them and still young enough to not have been influenced by outside sources yet. Makes sense to me, but Oooooooh boy.
Have you had this big talk yet? How did you start the conversation? What would you have done differently? How was it received? What questions should I expect??
I can’t believe this is going to happen already. I mean, I do NOT want to think of my daughter as a sexual being! I don’t want her thinking of ME as a sexual being. LOL! But seriously, I also want to be the one who instills her first (and hopefully lasting) view on intimacy and the powers of procreation. AHHHH, am I seriously talking about this??? Okay, calming down (why do I feel so anxious about this whole thing, anyway?). I’m asking for your advice here, friendly blog readers. I drawing on your experience (and Lynn, you’d better comment! I know you’ll tell me something I need to hear! LOL!)
I think I’m done now. I’ll sit back and wait for the advice to roll in 🙂